Feeling lost in your 20s

Rumor has it that 20s are the best years of your life; enjoy the freedom, enjoy the excitement because you will never be this young again. Well, then why are we dealing with this feeling of loss of direction in our best years? Why can't we romanticize our 20s?

Maybe it's not that deep, maybe it's okay not to have anything figured out yet. Maybe this is the realest part about the beauty of our 20s. Wanting to become everything but losing yourself and becoming nothing.

Sometimes you feel like suffocating because you don't know how to cope with adulthood and you want to be a child who has someone to hold his hand and teach him about life. But this time we are the parent and we are the child, we teach ourselves and we learn from our teachings.

It's a time for self-doubt, uncertainty, and suffocation. A friend of yours is marrying, another is having a child, one has everything figured out, one is moving abroad, one is making money while the other one is still asking for money from his parents and feeling like a burden.

As a consequence, you compare yourself to others, question your own path, feel inadequate, and feel like you are missing out. But maybe as you see others, compare yourself, and make mistakes, you experience failure and grow from it.

I once told a professor of mine about how I feel lost and feel like I don't know what to do about my future and that some of my friends are so precisely sure about themselves and it makes me feel inadequate about myself but at the same time there are things that I surely don't want to do unlike others. He responded with such simple words: Well at least you know what you don't want to do.

Even if the path seems so unclear, trying new things and learning what you don't want to become is a way to know yourself. Maybe our 20s are all about trying and learning what we don't want to become in the future. That's a way to find what we truly love.