The Illusion of Control

The idea that we are in charge of our lives brings a strange sense of security. We make careful preparations, establish routines, and believe that everything will work itself out with the correct amount of work. However, life—big, wild, and uncaring—does not live up to our expectations. It repeatedly reminds us that control is a myth by moving like the ocean and changing tides without our consent.

We are habitual beings who were brought up on the idea that we can have anything we desire if we work hard enough, make the proper decisions, or just want it badly enough. Have you, however, ever witnessed a flower bloom? It doesn't bargain with the sun; it doesn't push itself open. It yields to the invisible rhythm of nature, to time and to the rain. We also need to.

Consider the times you tried your hardest to keep life together, but it fell apart. The friendship that faded into quiet, the job opportunity that passed, and the love that vanished like mist at daybreak. Were you not able to hang on? Did you use the incorrect words? Maybe. However, it's also possible that life was just telling you that some things are supposed to elude you.

Letting go is a courageous act, not a show of resignation. It involves choosing trust over fear while standing on the precipice of uncertainty. Have faith that order exists even in turmoil. that there is always something to gain, even when you lose.

The unknown humbles us; therefore, we oppose it. It serves as a reminder that we are but atoms in an endless universe, fragile creatures carried by forces bigger than ourselves. But what if that were a source of freedom? What if we welcomed the lack of control rather than dreading it?

Imagine yourself afloat on a river, letting the tide carry you rather than resisting it. The water flows without requesting your consent. It just does. And there is calm in surrender.

So let go. Let go of the impulse to control every result. Enjoy life as it presents itself, without demands or expectations. Whether you like it or not, the universe will work itself out.

And you might discover that you are genuinely free in that surrender.