Peter Pan Syndrome and The Boy Who Wouldn't Grow Up

Eternal life, youth, immortality; whatever one might call it has been a mystery for centuries. Perhaps, the longing people have for the matter makes it captivating. Therefore, naturally, it has become a source of inspiration for many creators. It has been an enormously popular topic that anyone might find any related artwork, from fascinating to dreadful. Due to its popularity, it has also found its way into children’s literature. One of the best pieces of literature to capture youth in such a unique way is J.M. Barrie’s, Peter Pan. 

The origin of this character comes from Barrie’s brother, who passed away at a very young age. After this incident left a mark on Barrie’s life, he created The Boy Who Wouldn’t Grow Up.

The character has become an icon symbolizing childhood, along with escapism and other psychological issues. Being a familiar character, many are aware of the concept of the eternal child and the fact that it has been carried over to psychology. Widely known as ‘The Peter Pan Syndrome ’ is the case of a forever child.

What is Peter Pan Syndrome?

Essentially it's a psychological term used to describe a person who has difficulty adjusting to adulthood. It was initially introduced by Dr. Dan Kiley, in “Peter Pan Syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up”(1983). While Kiley describes it as a behavioural issue of men, it can apply to any gender. Although, it is not formally recognized as a condition.

It's used to describe people who are socially and mentally immature. So much so that it affects their relationships, work and mental state. They usually, shy away from responsibilities and commitment, making it very difficult to maintain employment or have healthy relationships.

In this sense, the name fits perfectly. Peter is a character who is afraid of adulthood, hence the responsibilities that come with being an adult. Peter is a character who is, before anything, aware of the things he fears.

However, since Peter Pan Syndrome is not a recognized diagnosis, there is no specific treatment. It is a wide spectrum that involves many aspects that differ in every person. Something that is considered as an issue for one, might not be so for another. The main thing to focus on is the ability, or lack of, functioning in a healthy way in every area of life. With Peter Pan Syndrome, one might not conclude needing therapy on their own. That is where the people around the struggling person come in with encouragement for therapy. Therapy can help in improving self-confidence and self-recognition if needed.